My daughter was 3 and my son was 3 1/2 before they were potty trained. I wasn't patient enough nor was our schedule regular enough to dedicate a lot of time to training. They both basically trained themselves overnight at that point. With my daughter, it was a month before she was supposed to start preschool. I told her she wasn't going to preschool unless she could use the potty. I told my son he couldn't attend a big boy birthday party he was invited to unless he was potty trained.

If you can back off for a while, I would highly recommend it for everyone's sanity. Especially if your daughter is having anxiety about it. You may find a lead in again at some point that might be motivating. Both my kids needed a real reason to do it.