I love this forum.
Thank you both for a much more coherent post than I was able to muster. I am exhausted, from an hour-long conversation with my mother-in-law, a life long public school educator about how horrible homeschooling would be.

We feel exactly as you pointed out. Very fortunate that before we got invested we learned the truth. Now, what to do with the $300 of Lands End clothing I had to buy???

That wasn't us about the employer paying tuition. Too bad.