Well, I'd stick with what worked before: he's smart, and that's normal for him. Why does a word--the word gifted--change everything for you? He's the same kid he was before, isn't he?

What scares you so about the GT label? I mean, are you scared about your parenting skills, or are you scared of the label and all that signifies in the world-at-large? Those are two very different issues...

Kriston