Agreed, Grin. And those points for trying matter! To kids, often just knowing that parents care enough to do SOMETHING is enough to solve a lot of the problems, even if the attempted solution doesn't actually work out.
Definitely try something to solve the problems!
As for not wanting to be "that mom," I realized at one point in my son's school career that I'd rather be "that mom" than have him be "that kid." I can take it; he can't. Be as cooperative and easy to deal with as you can, naturally, but I say advocate and let the label they pick for you fall where it may!
