Thank you for coming back with an update, and I'm glad to hear you and your DC are at better places on the journey now.
We each can only parent with what we understand at the moment about the child in front of us. Hindsight is 20/20. Trite but true. The most important takeaway as you look back is that your child is in a markedly better situation now than in the past, and continuing to grow and learn and become more of who he truly is supposed to be--and you and his other parent made choices that contributed to this. (And I commend you also for recognizing the needs of his sibling.)
