I see that the bearnaise was more of a non-negotiable for him, and the wine was contingent on the details. Both as they should be.
And I agree with both of you that academics per se are not as much the objective as they are the tool for learning soft skills. If conditions don't allow for learning EF through academics in the ZPD, like most school-age children do, then it's still possible to learn them through other activities. Though it is a bit aggravating for sure when school gets in the way of learning...
