I agree that it may take more testing to determine whether your DS is gifted. I will say, though, that my DS looked and sounded much like yours at that age.
Much of what your DS will need really depends on what is available to you at your schools. Do they offer gifted or advanced programming? Has he tried it? Such programming may or may not be enough. Prepare to attempt to figure out and communicate your DS's needs. It may take some time and patience.
DS is now a DYS, SSA'd in math into an advanced above-grade course, and is in his school's G&T program. He seems very well-liked and has friends of various ages. He is involved in a number of extra-curricular activities. Right now, things are great at school for him, but that took years of trying to communicate his needs.
Wishing the best to both of you!
