The critical piece of your IEP meeting was that they definitively qualified her for special ed, and acknowledged her twice exceptionality, which keeps her eligibility, for future documentation purposes. The offers of service provision are not all that important, since you weren't planning to put her back in anyway.
And on the WMI change: it may be that the addition of a visual working memory task to the WMI affected her performance. On the WISC-IV, both measures were auditory working memory, while on the WISC-V, one is auditory-symbolic, and one is concrete-visual.
