What does that mean, "in-service for teachers"? Also, remember that it's the school's responsiblity to deal with the social skills deficit as well, and EF issues, it shouldn't be your responsibility to "seek outside help" and the school is off the hook. DS actually has "organizational skills" in his IEP, and it's a service, a sped teacher is in charge of this, checks in on him, and works with classroom teachers.
It's great that she has a relationship with the school already. That should help a lot in terms of the school cooperating.
