Thank you all. I appreciate all the links and suggestions. I'm not really very worried (yet) about advocacy - he already has an IEP, and I suspect he's not going to require very major adjustments to it right away. I'm also not new to the world of 2e - my daughter is a Davidson scholar and was diagnosed with dysgraphia and possible ADHD several years ago, so I more or less know how that part works.
I'm hoping that someone can say, "Oh, when I was at this point, I read {title} and it really gave me some clarity to move on." Gigantic lists of resources on Hoagie's aren't very useful without some guidance about what's good for me to understand at this stage. I ordered one book that the psychologist recommended (Optimistic Parenting) - maybe it will help. Right now, I'm just trying to do the next thing each day.
