You may have read this elsewhere on the forums, but wrightslaw and the book From Emotions to Advocacy are helpful resources, as is NCLD, Understood.org, and 2e newsletter.

The information at the above links can guide a parent to accessing needed support services for their child in school.
More info at this link to Wrightslaw Game Plan: writing S.M.A.R.T IEPs. In general, parents may find it most effective to list out:
1) each specific skill deficit to be addressed,
2) ways in which the skills may be acquired (taught/learned/practiced),
3) measures which will indicate progress or mastery for each skill.

While parents are not in the classroom learning environment to ensure these techniques are utilized in the school setting, coaching and support from parents who are aware of the specific approaches, techniques, and strategies can be helpful for ongoing consistency and reinforcement at home. From that perspective, having online resources and/or a book on hand to refer to can be helpful.