Going back to the original question about not appearing "arrogant".
You do not appear arrogant, but one of the intimidation methods educators use to control the situation is to tell parents they are being "arrogant...pushy....inconsiderate that said educator has Xnumber of kids in the class to teach...etc."
Really, you have to let those things roll off your back. You have the right to push. You have the right to expect and appropriate education for your child. Your child has a right to an appropriate education.
So let 'em say you are being arrogant!!!
