With my first born and now Dylan I have seen that some focused time slot helps stave off the need for this sort of behaviour. Really with both of them if I don't do something daily with them, it's worse for everyone. So much so that even if we go away I always do something specific with them. Aiden now chooses what he wants to do and I let dylan pick from two activities. I think it's a combination of needing that one on one focused time with you and then also needing a bit more stimulation as well. Intense kids sometimes struggle to know where and how to focus their intensities.
