Important info; she is doing an online charter school after a year of homeschooling since the Pediatrician can't/won't help and pushed it off to the school district. The Pedi really wants to see her in public school setting but I just don't feel that it is appropriate.
I wonder why your pediatrician feels so strongly about that. Why is it inappropriate, in your estimation? Not saying that you're necessarily wrong, but if you haven't yet tried that, I'm wondering what you're basing it on. It seems really clear that a full scale evaluation is going to need to be the VERY first thing on the agenda here-- if the local district isn't OFFERING one, then you may need to insist upon it. It's entirely possible that there is much more here than even initially meets the eye-- gifted children are extraordinarily capable of hiding the severity of underlying disabilities.
This sounds as though it could be quite a complex set of challenges.
Unless your physician and local district can help figure out what services your child needs-- and a way to actually DELIVER those to her...
I'd very carefully think about whether a home-educational environment is the best thing here. Even with a virtual school (as opposed to "homeschool") the onus is on YOU to be the one actually "delivering" or structuring interventions. Depending on what those are, it may really be the domain of a professional instead, but your virtual school isn't likely to admit that.
I say that as another parent to a 2e child who is a long-time virtual school student (as a way to avoid 'home-bound' instruction).
Most online charter schools are REALLY not good at doing interventions outside of a few very well-defined things. It's an open secret in this particular educational model. They basically reach a point where they shrug and say, "well, we've done _______ {intervention for ADHD} and we've done _______ {intervention for slow processing speed}, and we've told you what to do about {other challenge.}" Then they give you the cold shoulder if that isn't working. Trust me here-- I've been with one of the big names in this model for the last seven years, and they have a canned response to everything, and if you need something that ISN'T in the system as an option, you're out of luck.
What help were you hoping for from your Pediatrician? Honestly-- this DOES sound like the domain of your local school district's special education specialists. I don't know enough about ADHD at the severe end to know whether or not the kinds of memory and learning difficulties you're describing are possible there, but those things sound like really severe impediments to learning. I don't think that "just slow down and increase repetitions" or "use both auditory and visual cues" is going to be enough-- or you'd already have seen evidence of it helping. I'm assuming that is probably what your current school has suggested, maybe along with a move to less enriched curriculum (which would not necessarily be a good move from a GT standpoint).
