While I like the idea of letting things ride as long as she seems happy about it all, I think that you've nailed why I'd be a little concerned under these circumstances.
This is the exact cocktail that has led to so many adolescent problems with my own DD-- the anxiety, the perfectionism, the task-avoidance, the disordered eating and sleeping...
Well, yeah. We all post from our own opinions and experiences of what works. With any of my three girls, asking for more challenges would have been an exercise in either "Mom, I'm handling it" (first two) or sitting back and allowing Mom to do everything and never engaging in self determination (the current teen). I tend to shy away from absolutes for that reason. Most of the things I said "never" about with the first completely don't apply to numbers three and four.
