Originally Posted by Iucounu
Best wishes to you and your daughter, Ren. I think you said the right thing. Even a young child who might not be able to fully deal with the suffering of a parent shouldn't hear that the parent wants to go on, leaving them behind. The question was probably prompted by some attempts at counseling by others.

Lucounu
I wasn't there obviously but what struck me from Ren's account was that it was her SIL who said DH wanted to go - to me that wasn't a counseling thing, but what adults, particularly religious ones want to hear - the person wants to go where there is no suffering and they will be happy and at piece. Some adults will find that comforting, and not see that children might not see it that way. Most likely the SIL was offering what comforted her.

DeHe