I'm worried about the things I've heard about zero tolerance for fighting along with stories I've heard about bullying and cruelty. My husband wants my son to fight back if there's any problems because that's how he was raised and he doesn't want our kids to be pushed around. I don't want my kids to get in trouble for being in a fight they didn't start. I have told him, don't hit or push back. Hold your hands out in front of you and say very loudly, "stop! Don't hurt me!" loudly, so everyone can hear you. Will that work? What can I do to bully-proof my kid and keep him from breaking a zero tolerance policy against fighting back?
The "don't fight back" doesn't work.
I know. I tried it. Fail.
Also, the "stop! Don't hurt me!" sounds, uh, ineffective.
Let them get in trouble if that's the price to pay for fighting back in a fight they didn't start.
I think that you *can't* both bully proof your kid and not violate a zero tolerance policy, so I recommend throwing out the zero tolerance policy.
