Welcome Evemomma,
I am sorry you went through that and are still feeling the sting. This is exactly what I want to avoid with my daughter. In many ways I sympathize because by nature I am creative and disorganized, but have worked hard so that people now look at my clean and organized home, academic accomplishment, written work etc. and see order. I still misplace things daily and forgot people's names though. I feel HORRIBLE when my critical part comes out and I correct my DD when I could let something slide.
I just don't know if there is an issue here (with her)and if I should help her in these areas or let it all just work itself out. My nurturing side wants to help her so that her gifted needs will be met but then my perfectionistic side will sometimes creep out (with the same goal but with a less helpful tone).
