Thank you so much for the replys! I really appreciate it.

Lots of good stuff to think about and consider.

My DS is exceptionally bright and most people who have ever dealt with him seem to have a good impression of him. He is very well behaved (as much as any other 10 year old that is!), class president and seems to get along with everyone. There are not many people who do not seem to like him overall. He loves learning but he is starting to dislike school. Verbally he can really impress you with what he knows and comprehends. But that intelligence level has never been shown on written work. The first grading period this year- the teacher even apologized that she had to give him a C in science. She said at that point in the year- the only gradable work was written work. She admitted that she felt he did know the info though and admitted that she was impressed with his level of knowledge.

Like many others on this board- I think that is why he flys under the radar on many issues that he has. He is not "failing" and can demonstrate his knowledge. But there is a downward progression of his grades (and almost completely revolve around issues related to reading/writing). I am hoping that the school will be able to (and be willing to) provide the help he needs so he doesn't keep falling until he does hit the point of failing.

I do believe he was correctly diagnosed with ADHD- but since it is a new thing (and unexpected) to learn about for us, I will probably ask some stupid questions and even play devils advocate occasionally to help my self work through everything. I always try to argue both sides of issues to help see the bigger picture. My husband and I just meet for lunch and discussed this in great detail. I think we are both on the same page so that is very helpful. We are honestly leaning towards medication- but that is scary when it is a new thing!!

Mich- quick question if you do not mind?
Would you recommend that the psychologist comes to the initial meeting that we have with the school. Or save his services for latter if we hit a road block? DS has been on an IEP since he was 3 (for speech), but since there have never been any problems we are unsure of how bringing in new stuff will be processed. Having a specialist come along is $$ so want to make sure we do not unnecessarily use those resources. If it is worth while- no problem at all though!

We have had one fight with the school (more like a speed bump) and it had a positive outcome- so hoping that is a good sign.
(they wanted to take DS out of the accelerated math class because he was not completing his work in a timely manner. We said we would only agree to that if they felt he was having issues with the concepts- not just the written work. They did not argue one bit and agreed. That was 2 months ago and have not heard anything else on the matter)

Last edited by jolene77; 03/08/12 01:21 PM.