He said a few weeks ago that he doesn't think he can stand living like this for so long, so I am also looking for ways to help my son feel like he belongs.
Lori, this is a scary statement and I encourage you to take it seriously. Going to see a therapist or counselor is nothing like going to see a doctor for scoliosis or medical tests. I would really encourage you to pursue getting him some support. It is NORMAL for people going through major medical stuff involving stress and pain to go and see a therapist. Of course it doesn't feel like it will help initially, that feeling that nothing can help is part of depression. That doesn't actually mean that it won't work. Bit by bit it does help, quite a lot for a lot of people.
