Ellipse,

I understand what you are saying about your DD feeling like an outsider - we felt that way most of the time we were there.
Have you checked for someone at the college for her to talk to? I know there used to be someone there that would have been helpful, but who knows if they are still there now.
Good luck with her latest problems, I'm sorry I have no advice. If I think of a name for you I'll send you a pm.

Kerry