My husband, who has the same challenges, stepped in and told me to let my son work it out for himself - that if I made it easier at home, he'd never find alternative approaches that worked for him. Believe it or not, it worked. It took about three months, but he got to the point that it took less and less time.
Thanks ABQmom for sharing your husband's insight. I am a person who rushes through everything, so it's hard for me not to want to speed him up, and your dh is right - ds needs to find his own way to work that works for him.
Your suggestion of a break every so often is a good suggestion too - we try to encourage him to do this, but need to make a point of being sure that he does.
Thanks so much,
polarbear
