Another option is to ask to move your DD to grade 2 rather than have the grade 1 teacher differentiate. There are a number of books you can quote from to make your case. Also, who tested her? Perhaps they can help you advocate or can make recommendations?
The nice thing about a new school, though, is that you can preset the attitudes toward your child and your family. It is a fresh start.
A flexible school is a must. Our son, Mr W, is 3 and is in an academic PreK with 4/5 year olds. He is still way ahead of the kids in his class. The teachers give him worksheets from K and 1st grade to work on when they do academic stuff and spend time with him. He loves it and brings everything home to show us. We got a bit of a push-back from one staff member when she learned his age - but now she has drunk the Mr W kool aid, too. LOL.
We pulled him out of his Montessori school because the teacher said he was not "doing his work,", ie 12 piece puzzles, because she stopped his evaluation at age three level because "we don't eval past their age," yet she did not think he was bored with the stuff in her class which he could do at 18 months. The woman was blind. If she was blind to us, then she was blind to him.
