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Definitely not the answer! Oh, so not the answer!

If I can help with anything, let me know. I'm there for you.

And I'm always happy to give pats on the back as needed. I'll even virtual-moon you if you need a laugh!

questions:

Should be a different thread, but the Carnegie for kids (different from Family concerts) are fabulous. They are small, in the studio (DD3's preschool makes the trips) and so well done. Will put a note on the Philharmonic's Young People's Concerts after this weekend.

Ren

Oh Questions,
It makes me so sad to hear about DS in tears over school. There will be a time when DS forgets to remember that he wants to learn and be challenged intellectually, when he's more interested in what his friends think than what the teachers think. If you are considering homeschooling, then consider that you can end his school year when you feel he has had enough - there is so prize to sticking it out until June.

Can you keep him home one day a week while possible changes are being make for 'part time' homeschooling. Yes you can say he's 'under the weather' every Wednesday from not until June! Or can you manufacture some reason to pick him up after lunch twice a week?

Problem is, if a kid is in tear over not learning at school they are activly being damaged. Most likely it is you, dear, who will have to undo the damage - and the more there is, the harder there is.

I don't mean to scare you, but I kept my DS in a 'poor fit' situation for 6 months, hoping for the next meeting, or the next adjustment...looking back I just wish I hadn't! Anyway, we've paid the price over and over and are still paying it. Perhaps there was some larger good being accomplished that will only be clear 25 years from now....but....((sigh))

My DS11 is so emotional at times, and so stoic at other times, that I think it was hard for me to take his cryes for help seriously. Thankfully he acted out after a while and sent up the red flags.

Love and More Love,
Grinity

Thanks, Ren. If we lived closer, I'd try them (and for that matter, if we lived in NYC, we'd also try to get into Hunter - hope you hear good news!). As it is, we make trips in every once in a while to go to AMNH - and Mars 2112 (btw, there's no line there anymore, and they seem to have cut back on the number of aliens). Before they shipped out, we were members of the Intrepid Museum. You get an idea where DS's interests lie.

And Grinity, I know. We went through much worse at his old school, and he suffered for a lot more than six months. We were lucky that he rebounded so nicely. We have stepped this up to crisis situation and are talking to our support system about our options and what is best for DS while trying to advocate as best we can at his current school. Thank you for your kind words.

((Hugs Questions))
Grimity

DS's comment when I dropped him off at school this am: "Mommy, I forgive you for sending me to this school."

Ooooo! Ouch!

That is tough, Questions. Though someone's comment about making up an excuse until June for absence one day a week, I don't think is ridiculous.

I used to be a competitive figure skater and I remember my 9th grade history teacher commenting that I missed 56 classes. I think that works out to be more than one day a week.

Suggest to the principal the problem and you want some ideas on how to remedy and if that means a homeschool pull out once a week, to help him, that might be feasible.

That might also help you with more acceleration.

Ren

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Oh questions! That is so tough. Poor guy and poor you.