Gifted Issues Discussion homepage Forums Identification, Testing & Assessment A whole lot to take in- results from psy

I think if you ever cared to do a search of this site, you will see many panicky posts from people who just found out how gifted their kids are. Then if you look at posts from those same people a year down the line, they are much less panicky.

I think that the psych gave you a lot of encouraging information, but I agree with everyone else that not teaching your child anything academic is silly.

Also, don't think too much about the future. The best advice from our psychologist, a specialist in HG+ kids, was to plan on being flexible, because there will probably need to be a lot of accommodations and changes in our DS7's education throughout the years. And so far, there has been. We sent DS to kindy at regular age, based on the recommendation from the psych to let him play another year. He was given accommodations for math and reading, and then skipped 1st grade. We were in our local school district for half of 2nd, where he gots tons of differentiation and pullouts, and we just moved him to a school for HG kids that works a year ahead (so basically a double-skip compared with continuing at our local school). He finally has a challenge. We are hopeful that this school will be a good fit for longer than a year (this is his 3rd school in 2 years), but we cannot predict.

Prepare for a lot of advocating, which gets slightly easier over time but is still always kind of a struggle.

And know that a lot depends on your child's personality. I recommend reading Miraca Gross's Exceptionally gifted kids (the new addition with follow-ups). Some kids did fine with not so radical accelerations.

I found the most support from this board. Hopefully you will too!

Thank you all so much! I am not freaked out at all today. I guess that good nights sleep helped. No migraine, I went back to sleep this morning and DD and I slept till almost 10. We are watching some TV, going to bake cookies, and the go play in the snow and go sleding.

She is still the exact same kid, doing the exact same things that she has always done. Noting changed between then and when the psy gave us his thoughts.

I am taking what he said and throwing out what doesn't fit. I am taking some suggestions that were great and going to try to apply them. I am going to talk next week the the PCR and a lady who has had DD in classes and has commented many times that she does things her 4th grade students don't do, and am telling them that I want her to be allowed to take the summer classes and day camps they offer for kids where they state "must have completed K." Last year they had an archelogy one where they learned about the island and the artifiacts that have been found and did mock digs etc, and they had a space one that I know DD would have loved.

He said to get her Rosetta Stone, and I think we will since she has been asking to learn french and spanish for several months now.

I'll talk to the school and see what they are willing to do, but other than that, I am just going to keep doing what we have been doing, because she is happy at home, always laughing, smiling, and having fun. Weather she is acting at that moment like a 3 year old or a 10 year old. If she has a question I will answer like I always have and give her the information she asks for. We will continue our hikes, our blanket tents, movies, bored games, baking, playing dinosaurs, princess, baby jesus, everything we have always done.

I think I will look into a phone convo with someone more knowledgable, but there is no rush. The biggest thing I am going to work on at the moment is getting her with older kids more since that is what she craves, has cried about, and says she is lonely for, since right now all the groups we do and pottery, art, etc are for 3-4 year olds. When she does get the chance at church and occassionally on play dates to play with one of her friends who are 6ish she is happier. So that I will work on because I see the need at the moment. Other than that, we will just keep truckin along doing what we have been!

Thanks yall for letting me freak for a moment. As I told him, I don't care what she becomes, does wioth her life, etc, as long as she is happy. Heck I have my masters and now stay at home, and I love being a mom more then I ever loved my job and while I know I could do both, I am happiest being at home with her everyday. I am happier then ever. And I want her to feel that same happiness, no matter what she choses in life to do or be. DD is stubborn and very self led, and she knows what she wants. She will let me know when the situation is no longer working for her, and what she thinks will work. Just like she did when she told me the social situation wasn't working for her and expressed what she needed. I need to remember that.

Again, thank you all!!!!

Amazed-

Bravo to that!

And apologies for the tone of my move to Reno comment - it was meant more tongue in cheek than anything (although i do think some schools, etc. are easier to work with), but of course that didn't come across.

Good luck, amazedmom. It sounds like you'll be getting SOME sort of help from the school system, if you're prepared to push. I'm disheartened every time I read about someone being told to hold their kids back so they don't get ahead. :| It's just wrong on so many levels.