Ok -- a week later! Thank you all for your kind words. I was proud of myself too -- before I went in I reminded myself that the kid is depending on *someone* to try, and that someone is me. No one else is going to do it. So I had to put my best effort forward. Feel free, Jamie, to steal one-liners to your heart's content!
Grin -- Ha, we actually went through our four points at the end of the meeting, first the principal, then me asking again and repeating them: LA every day in class, math enrichment, possible online math program, Iowa Acceleration Scale starting now. But I will send a note just to clarify, especially on the psychologist issue -- thanks for the idea. Maybe I'll have ex-h write it -- he was not at the meeting, but his fiancee was.
EPGY looks perfect; we may do the one through Stanford. Now to talk ex-h into the cash ... he's a grad student, so cash isn't exactly flowing. We'll see how he takes to that.
And (on a side note) Disney was great! Ds got to meet his secret lover-girl, Ariel the Little Mermaid. He was, to use the expression, happy as a clam!

Now we're back in the cold; when we landed, the local temperature was -2. Yuck!