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DS19mo is a pretty inflexible toddler. Everything has its own place, and he needs to make sure everything is at its usual place. Some recent examples:

- I took off his shoes and put them by the door. He voluntarily picked them up and put them neatly in the mudroom where they belong.
- He has to put away all his toys before going outside.
- When we sleep on the couch, he will bring us to our bedroom to sleep.
- If I wear DH�s shoes, he tells me to take them off and gives them to DH to wear.

He never throws tantrums when things are out of place, but he has a need to �fix� them. When he cannot �fix� them himself, he will demand them to be �fixed� asap. So he can sometime be very bossy/controlling/demanding. I think some of the inflexibility is due to him being very observant.

On the other hands, he has fairly flexible logics. When he is in trouble, he either sucks on his thumb to threaten us, tells us he is scared and hugs us, or tells us he needs to poop.

Is that pretty common for toddlers to have inflexibility traits like that? Or is this just his temperament?

TIA

Gosh, if he's not throwing huge fits when things aren't perfect, he sounds like a more-flexible-than-most toddler to me.

yes DD still at age 3 complains if I wear something that belongs to her dad LOL

DD certainly went through that phase awhile back! She still gets upset if certain things are out of place but she's better now but it probably has a lot to do to our frequent traveling lifestyle than anything else (as in we've been traveling so much with her lately she hasn't really had a choice to get over this do to all the changes going on).

She still has some things. She still nurses and if I don't refer to it to the proper name (a name she made up that I have no clue where she got it from!) than I get a stern warning. Also, if I don't speak to her in the right language than I get another stern "no no no!".

That plus tantrums = my 20 month old girl. She recently started extreme tantrums about a month ago. I have a headache almost daily. Almost anything sets her off: not getting her way, her not being about to do something, her getting the wrong thing (like water instead of milk).

ETA: she also has to put things in it's place.

My DS now 7 went through a period at about 2 that can only be described as extreme OCD! Everything had to be "just so". Drove me crazy (common theme) He's mellowed out alot since then but he is still very particular about his own stuff and he has the only clean bedroom in the house!

Oh how I wish my DD could catch some of the OCD for putting things away. LOL It is a constant battle with her. Threats and actually following through on throwing out games or items that have been scattered around the house and therefore missing essential pieces doesn't phase her a bit.

DS, now 6, went through a phase between the ages of about 10mos - 22 mos (when his sister was born) where he couldn't "play" with certain things. He would set them (any "figurines" he had)up on his little play table, like he was going to play with them, but they only sat there. He would go nuts if we changed them. This is about the time that I was concerned he may be on the spectrum. I agree with no5 - sounds like he's more flexible than DS6 was at that age!!!