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I , both as a teacher and a person, feel that your DD's sense of ownership and gumption about her education is a vital ingredient for success. I'm betting on the teacher's positive response.

Wow, Master of none you have an amazing dd. I think the teacher will be impressed with her (I know I am) for taking such an interest in her education and also offering solutions.

before going in to talk with the teacher, take a deep breath count to 10 slowly, it will be fine.

best of luck. Keep us posted.

WOW, if my son had HALF of your DD's gumption, I"d be thrilled. Please do post what happens.

Hi MoN,

Your DD sounds simply amazing. Have you given the teacher a heads-up to have some idea what to expect?

I hope it goes well. Please keep us posted.

I'm also a fan of your DD8's gumption and I'll be cheering for you both at the meeting. Good luck!

If it's any consolation, my DD did JUST this same thing. In fact, I found AFTER she already talked to the teacher about it! She was even very strategic in how she presented it so as to not make the teacher feel bad that she wasn't providing her with what she needs. My DD is the same age as your's too! Gotta love these take charge girls! Her teacher DID respond positively (for a short time) or at least in my daughter's eyes. What she thinks is challenging enough my daughter thinks is a cake walk, but she is trying. We are now in the process of arranging a grade accel. so I think the teacher put it somewhat on the back burner because anything she can provide is still not that challenging, if at all. That would require a total curriculum change. She was trying to offer just one grade ahead but that wasn't cutting it either. All's I can say is, don't dread the meeting. Your teacher will most likely feel proud your DD can express her needs that way and be willing to work with you.

Any teacher who's worth talking to will LOVE this. Your daughter is approaching this with a very mature and intelligent attitude.

It's a sad, sad world we live in when all of us (myself included) are surprised and impressed to see a child taking some agency over her own education - really, shouldn't that be the norm??

Sounds like the teacher won't be too receptive to your daughter's message.
Even though it's harder in the short run to go this route, it will pay major dividends in the long run. Girls get so many subtle (and not so subtle) messages to "suck it up," "just be nice," and "go with the flow," that your backing her up on this will be a strong antidote. The good news is DD is only 8 so if the teacher wants to send a message with a lower grade, it's not going to keep her out of college.
Looking forward to hearing your update on the meeting.