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    #7208 01/14/08 09:04 AM
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    This morning I was taking dd7 to school. For about the last 3 weeks she has been saying that she doesn't want to go to school...a highly unusual statement from her. This morning she said it again and so I asked why she didn't want to go. She said "I don't like school". This, from a child who has always thought school was the best thing ever. So I asked her why and she said that "school is boring...and not fun". I said, well what would make school more fun? (half expecting her to say "longer recess" or "more games" etc) and she says "Science. Why cant we learn about science and experiments? Thats what I want to do. The other stuff is boring me..I've learned how to do all of it and want to do something else now".

    *sigh* To be honest, I think I knew this was coming but I'm not really sure what, if anything, to do about it. The last time she talked this way was in K. Once she got adjusted work she was fine. Last year in 1st grade she seemed very happy. This year has been different (I had to ask the teacher for more challenging reading etc) but dd seems challenged. I know GT is very challenging but dd has said she has been doing better than all the kids in that class. Her teacher told me that dd is a fast learner. Once she learns something she masters is, without any need for repetition (she called it a name but cant think of it now) anyway, I wonder if the repetitive nature of the class is boring her? I could be making a mountain out of a mole hill..but sure would appreciate any advice here. Do I talk to her teacher? Leave it alone for a while? help. lol.

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    Yes, yes, yes! Talk to the teacher in a non-judgemental way to keep/ develop your relationship. Maybe, how can we work together?? Can she do independent science work?? I remember my standard deal as a child (and indeed throughout graduate school) was that if I got at least 95% on whatever that I didn't have to do the boring work and I could do what ever I wanted (like learn hieroglyphics and at one point esoteric astrology). It saved me -- as did graduating at 14.

    The trick was that I always did the negotiating rather than my parents, but it's worth a shot for DD. Good luck!


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    aline #7217 01/14/08 09:39 AM
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    Mom2LA - I just had this same conversation with my DS6 this past week. He says school is boring and I asked him what would make it less boring (also thinking it would be more recess/longer lunch, etc) and he said more science. He wants to do chemistry experiments! He also said he wishes they'd teach him something he doesn't already know. I've been struggling with whether to say something or not too. I'd just about decided to do more of that kind of stuff with him at home. I have a homeschool friend who recommended some resources for me.

    Aline - yea for you for standing up for yourself and negotiating for yourself! You've made me think I need to maybe reconsider talking with the teacher. You are very obviously PG and I don't think my DS is by any means (MG at most I think), which is one reason I haven't been sure what to do. It's great hearing a success story though! smile

    EandCmom #7219 01/14/08 10:03 AM
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    I hardly think of myself as a success story but other people sometimes do. LOL. My DD9 is, I think MG but with maybe 3 or 4 Ruf-level traits added in. (I'm still a bit befuddled about the correlations between strict IQ scores and obvious personality traits.) --more on that later, elsewhere--

    She has been very lucky because she has a great peer group at a good, small school where they differentiate but she still struggles with the "slow and boring problem." I feel downright blessed that she 's got this core group of five gifted girls in a group of 25 students aand that the school is very flexible about working out of level, flexible multi-age grouping etc. She, however, has great social skills which I was too weird to have. I think that that makes things easier.

    This is in part because the public schools here are SO bad that advocate parents tend to push pretty hard to get into the school.




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    Hi Mom2LA - my 7 year old ds (1st grade) has been saying almost the same thing since the novelty of seeing all his buddies the first 2 weeks of school wore off. He basically says "I know everything they're teaching me". I actually did talk to the teacher. She made a couple very minor changes and said she was going to do stuff she has dropped the ball on. DS would love to do science all day too!

    Anyway - my only additional advice would be to have a plan B if talking to the teacher doesn't produce results! I think the no repitition needed thing is so hard in the regular classroom. You really have to make adjustments and assessments often with these kids. Standard curriculums are so spiraling.

    We have had no luck with the teacher, principal, or district thus far. I do feel for our teacher. She has 26 kids in the class! We are seriously considering a school change or homeschool for next year.

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    Hi Mom2LA,
    I do think it's time for a chat with the teacher to compare notes. Remember that what will impress the teacher is 'how your daughter is feeling' so try as much as the bounds of honestly dictate to translate her words into feeling.

    If she outright cries, do say so.
    If she dwadles on her way to school, and used to be the first one ready, so that.
    If she gets a bit choked up when talking about wanting more science, focus on the vocal quality.

    As a rule, the teachers will feel guilty if you say that the child is bored, but concerned if you say that the child is unhappy. We know that that is the same thing, but they don't.

    As for afterschooling, I encourge it as possible, and not just what your daughter 'wants' to learn, although mostly child lead. If you can find a way to push her in her area of strength, that's a good thing.

    During school hours, be ready to provide some in-depth curriculum to give the teacher, but look for a sign that the teacher wants it before you bring it to the table. Teachers love for the work a child does to be related in some way to what the rest of the class is doing, so that the child can share it with the classmates, and feel 'part of things' (note that feeling-centered perspective again) So if the class read a book that involved baking cookies, you can provide 'kitchen chemistry' activities. The contection can be really really slender - you are just looking for a pretext here, not a real, meaningful connection.

    Best Wishes,
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    Grinity #7244 01/14/08 04:25 PM
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    Hi mom2la,

    I sure don't think you are making a mountain out of a molehill, sorry your DD and you are going through this.
    I hate to say this, but some schools are starting the dreaded January review, I think this was touched on in another thread. Maybe this is what's causing her to become more vocal about her displeasure.
    All of the above are really good ideas. We just went through this before Christmas break and I focused heavily on how DD was feeling. I definately think the teacher is more likely to relate to this dilemma. They don't seem to like the B work and I guess I understand, nobody likes to think they are not doing their job. Especially if she really is a great teacher, which it sounds like she is, like she gets DD.
    FWIW, this is when I stepped in and told them(teacher and principal) I felt she was innapropriately placed in second. The implication was that DD was innapropriately placed because of who DD is, not because school is not doing a good job. I also told them I felt she was a good candidate for a skip. The only thing that stopped me in my tracks was DD. She practically became hysterical when I suggested it to her. If she was game, I would have pushed for it without looking back.
    Maybe you could feel teacher out and ask in a nice way after explaining how she is dealing/not dealing with outpacing the others in class in terms of speed of learning. Teacher already agrees with that right? Maybe you could ask teacher if she felt DD is appropriately placed in the grade. At our school the teacher is the gatekeeper. It is my impression the teacher makes the recommendation whether or not to pursue for a skip. If she's on your side, it can't hurt, even if she is not the one to make the decision.

    Good luck!

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    Thanks everyone...I knew I could count on you ladies for some sound advice. I think I will end up talking with dd's teacher.

    Grinity #7254 01/14/08 06:24 PM
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    Originally Posted by Grinity
    As a rule, the teachers will feel guilty if you say that the child is bored, but concerned if you say that the child is unhappy. We know that that is the same thing, but they don't.

    That's an excellent idea. It's never occurred to me to approach it from this viewpoint.

    Good luck Mom2LA. I have no suggestion besides talking to the teacher. I'm still learning how to do that without sounding like a crazy pushy parent.


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    [quote=kcab
    The only up-side to this is that, with her new subject accel, she might get something new in the math review. [/quote]
    Go Kcab! That's the lemonade out of lemons. AND a good reminder that most children who are properly placed do get something out of review.

    Smiles Grinity!


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