Thanks so much everyone.  I can't explain how much all this support has touched me.  The whole process for school and everything has been such a struggle with so little understanding it is SO wonderful to have all of you.
I hadn't thought about HOW I addressed the school being an issue.  I found out about undergrads not getting any training in it from an undergrad.  Everyone else I talked to blew me off.  I'll have to try it again from a different angle.
The issue with early testing through the school district is that I was informed basically "NO testing before end of 2nd/sometime in 3rd and for GATE only."  The lady who wants to test him is really going to be using a red hot poker on the system...  Also we have an interdistrict transfer that I do NOT want to lose and squeaky wheels might get the grease, but they also tend to not get renewed...  I'm walking a really thin edge with the early testing through the district from what I understand anyway.
I'll keep everyone updated with the search for a tester.  

Also if they really won't accept without a score they need to take it off the site and stop telling people to take advantage of that option...  It's a bit messed up not to, IMO.