Standard textbook answers worked well for us. We told DS9 at one point (maybe in 1st grade) that he is gifted (he also wanted to know his IQ score but I said no way). He was aware of the differences between him and other kids anyway. We stressed that this is not something that he needs to be particularly proud of, because he did not do anything to become gifted, it was a gift from God/nature (whatever word is appropriate). Now how to use this gift is his choice, if he uses it well it will help him to have a very good life and help others have a good life. Of course we (and teachers) also make him see that everyone has a gift, and intellectual abilities are only one type of abilities that are important in life, and DS being a sensitive and nice kid does genuinely appreciate his friends, smart or not. He is also very aware of the issue of "bragging" and he is very careful on what to say and what not to say to other kids (this just comes from the fact that he has always been very good at perceiving other people's feelings). We are also lucky that where we live has a very strong academic emphasis. Whether the school fits DS's need and whether all teachers are understanding is one thing, but there is not too much anti-intellectualism going on (definitely some and annoying but not as bad as what I heard in other places). As a result there are many high-achieving kids in our area (in academics, sports, arts, you name it) and this is great for DS because it reinforces what we teach him about hardwork is the key to develop one's potential.
Last edited by playandlearn; 08/04/09 07:39 AM.