I do think that is the best approach to help my child as an individual, and I may end up on that road, but first I want to focus on bigger picture, What changes need to be made at my school to help kids like mine?
I would strongly urge you to 'compartmentalize' when it comes to this tricky and delicate territory. In your daughter's classroom just keep your nose to the 'this is who she is and what she needs' grindstone. Then, in other contexts, you can chain yourself to a tree or whatever. Seriously. It's hard enough for the teacher to 'get' our kids. Don't confuse the issue by 'fighting for the bigger picture' at the same time.
You may be curious why I urge this so strongly. I'm not really sure why, just that this is what I've seen work and this is what I've seen fail. But if I was to go on a limb and speculate, I would say that most of these gifted children have parents who were once children who needed a lot more than we got. So when we fight for 'the greater good' a bit of our own personal struggles gets dreged up along with it. And since no one can go back in the past and give you what you needed back then, there tends to be a extra dash of emotion that really clouds the situation. I'm one of those parents who went to great lengths not to make the same mistakes that were made with me. It made me feel better, but I'm not sure how much it helped my son. Each child is individual, and has individual needs that change over time. Wow is it ever difficult to truly experience another human, but that is what we as parents are being asked to do. So, that's my best guess as to 'why' we see over and over again that one must seperate our 'political' struggles from our advocacy.
Really, why not open a school yourself and do things right? Or run for the school board? Or get involved in State politics? But leave the individual teachers at your daughter's school out of it.
Hope that's not 'Too Much Information' - and of course we want to hear how things are going no matter what you decide, but part of my picture of 'what a friend is' is someone who will stand our at the lighthouse and ring the warning bell.
Love and More Love,
Grinity