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Re: Does your toddler boss you around? Katelyn'sM om #41927 03/18/09 01:32 PM
Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 847 New York S shellymos Member
shellymos Member S Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 847 New York	Originally Posted by Katelyn'sM om My entire life I heard how bossy I was/am, but the ones that made that statement has quickly said... wow you were never that bossy when referring to my DD 2 1/2. She is one incredible bossy toddler. Funny because I am not at all a bossy person as an adult, but I was a bossy kid apparently. My mother informed me that at a very young age she heard me say to a friend "you think what you think, and I'll think what's right" LOL. I do actually recall being bossy some. Then I got a conscience, starting caring about people, got into social work and all that. It went away. So hopefully it will with all our little ones : )

Re: Does your toddler boss you around? Irisheyes #41928 03/18/09 01:35 PM
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BWBShari Member Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 1,167 NM	DS6 went through a period of this. When he'd start demanding things, I'd ask him to repeat it as a 5yo would. If he refused or started revving up, I'd start subtracting 1's from his age. "Now you are 4, bedtime is 7:30" "Now you are 3, bedtime is 7:00". It took about 3 times of early bedtimes and he determined that he preferred being 5. Shari Mom to DS 10, DS 11, DS 13 Ability doesn't make us, Choices do!

Re: Does your toddler boss you around? BWBShari #41929 03/18/09 01:39 PM
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hkc75 Member H Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 312	Uh-oh. Hearing these stories makes me want to change my parenting. Currently DD2 whines a lot so I don't even pay attention to her unless she uses her words. I just say, "Use your words please" over and over. She has been starting to really catch on. Now I better make sure to change it to, "Use your nice words." Yikes!

Re: Does your toddler boss you around? seablue #42001 03/18/09 08:22 PM
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OP seablue Member Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 356 by the sea	No singing in the car for us, either. sigh. DD does say please, thank you and you're welcome, but she still manages to control the world. I've started saying to her, "you have to use your powers for good instead of evil." I remember my friend reading a "parenting your spirited child" book and thinking, gosh, is there really such thing as willful or spirited? Don't you just need to discipline her differently? This was her second DD... I should have known better. Anyway, we've got ourselves a doozy. People ask, is this your little princess? and I say, More like our little Empress.

Re: Does your toddler boss you around? MsFriz #42160 03/20/09 05:49 AM
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JJsMom Member J Joined: Feb 2009 Posts: 921	Originally Posted by MsFriz I finally put my foot down around 3 1/2 and told my son I wouldn't do anything for him unless he turns his commands into questions. Whenever he starts in with "I want X" or "Give me X," I make him turn it into "Could you please..." or "Would you please...?" After many months of this, it's finally becoming more automatic for him, and it's amazing how much this one little change in phrasing has changed the power dynamic in our house, for the better. We do the same... and also request that they stop crying or whining first, etc. But yes, DD3, who I guess is not really a toddler anymore, is very bossy... guess she did get something from moi. hehe.

Re: Does your toddler boss you around? Irisheyes #46318 05/01/09 02:43 PM
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Floridama Member F Joined: Apr 2009 Posts: 389 Florida	My DS2.9 has been bossy and controlling for over a year now. I NEVER do anything unless he re-phrases and asks me nicely, even then it seems his demands are still excessive. It wears me out but I am convinced that if I keep not giving in one day he'll quit trying.... Well atleast I'm hoping

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