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I'm sure I'd like all of you... I think I was ENTJ...so there is something to that MBTI stuff... Thanks KCAB for the congrats!

LOL - I thought that folks with the Introvert Preference were all 'what you see is less than 5% of what's going on in here' - not exactly WYSIWYG.

Maybe only the INTJs are posting... Does seem like a disconnect...

congrats momx2! wonderful news.

I'm here to say that there's at least one ENTP who is a little too blunt in life, and gets along better with the guys. One woman friend thought I was mean when she first met me, then she found that I was just honest and perhaps a bit too sarcastic... And I shop like a guy - in and out as quickly as possible.

And I am very grateful for this site, so I can feel like a normal person discussing concerns about my child (which i have to stifle most of the time IRL, although I do luckily have quite a few friends/relatives as support as well).

LOL! I can't speak for all introverts, of course, but remember that we INTJ-ers are Spock. The fact is, there's not a whole lot going on in here that isn't also going on out there.

When there is something that we absolutely have to hold in, we still cock one eyebrow quite noticeably and say, "Fascinating." We can't help ourselves.



And no worries, kcab. I think you and I would get along famously. We just agree way too often to be anything but good buddies. But I totally get your "fur rubbed the wrong way" analogy. You're right. I see it happen. I've just accepted that I am *not* an acquired taste: you either get me or you don't, and it's okay either way.

And Lorel:



Gosh! You're just nice. You made my whole week. Thanks!

(But really, trust me, there are plenty of people with fur rubbed all kinds of wrong by me!!!)

I have learned to keep my mouth shut the hard way.

I talk about it with some family members, most of the people in my and my husbands family are either GT or special ed....or both....lol

So they all sort of get it, although, if my sister in law say to me one more time"I am glad I'm not in you shoes" I might hit her in the head with a shoe! Her kids are both gifted, she is rowing in a river in Eygpt- "de-nile!" I have mentioned this to her a few times and she just says,"No he's just in to stuff." The older boy is 10 and last year built his own computer from extra parts they had laying around the house... yeah, into stuff.

But we found a friend on-line that lives in our area and it has turned out great! our DS7 and there DS7 are like frick and frack! I just wish they went to the same school. So we are now friendly with them.

Otherwise I smile and wave like the penguines from "Madagasgar"

Congrats momx2!

At least our immediate family doesn't freak about how smart and talented the kids are. Education is highly valued in our families, so anything that supports education is *GOOD*.

We've found a really supportive school environment. Don't know what we'll do after grade 8 though...

But socially, man-oh-man. People acknowledge how bright DD is and what a good artist she is. So I smile politely and say "thanks." Then there's that awkward silence. I try to compliment them on their child. It always feels forced.

Wow, how true that is. I have always felt this way and have talked about it with DH and my parents. Even at a young age I couldn't say anything about my child to most of my friends and others around us because of their reactions. I was truly not bragging, and at first I didn't know things were out of the norm so I thought I was just commenting on normal stuff. I just wanted to talk about my child like they could. Then people stopped talking to me about their children and when I would praise them for their children's accomplishments they would act as if I was condescending. They would respond with "well he's not reading yet like your DS" It was really hurtful.

I used to be afraid that my DS would talk in front of his peers and their parents would feel bad...I still feel like this at times, but not so much because everyone knows he is different. But when he writes notes to other 4 yo's in church and they don't write back he doesn't understand why sometimes. When he was 1-2yo and we would go to stores he would read signs, and I would always pray that no one would ask his age (he always looked older so people at least thought he was 3 when he was not quite 2 yet). It's one thing to have a child that is bright, that is generally acceptable (although I guess some people wouldn't like that either). But having a child that is highly/exceptionally gifted doesn't seem very acceptable to me. So now I don't say too much, which makes me sad. My DS tells the funniest stories and says hilarious stuff...but I write it down and maybe some day I will share it in a book. I am grateful for forums like this because it has been the only way to really share stuff about my DS and get support without feeling uncomfortable or like I am bragging.

If you meant WYSIWYG ... What You See Is What You Get..
If you did mean WYSIWIG then i have no idea.

No, that's not my real hair?