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I'm intense, too. And too honest. I say what I mean and mean what I say. That often throws women off. They expect passive aggressive behavior, so if I say what I think, then they multiply that by 10 (as they'd have to do with most other women), and they think I'm even more intense than I am.

I tend to fare better with other non-passive-aggressive women (rare) and men. Men usually think I'm swell, since there's no hidden agenda and no holding a grudge. WYSIWYG.

WOW! I could have written this. I always describe myself as WYSIWYG. I am also direct and fairly blunt though I've learned to cushion what I say. Alas, I also am naive in that I tend to believe what people say and take things at face value not realizing that not everyone else is not direct or open. Yes, I too have a difficult time forming attachments. Throw both DYS kids into the mix and... Needless to say, I stopped talking about either of them when DS7 was 5y and I never talk about DD5.

We should get together socially! We'd either be inseparable or hate one another on sight, probably!

Kriston, I've always wondered why I get along better with men. Maybe you're onto something...

Well, my DH calls me "a man with boobs" and jokes with his engineer co-workers when they gripe about their touchy wives that he wishes I would be more sensitive to his emotional needs...

So, yeah, I think I probably have a pretty decent working theory, at least.

Of course, GT people tend to be more atypical of their genders, so that sort of cross-gender stuff makes some sense, I think.

And I could have written this! Being too honest can get me into trouble.

I also just don't understand why people act against their own interests so often. I've seen this kind of thing happen in specific situations I've been involved in and also in general. Personally, I've been through some very frustrating situations where the demonstrably correct course of action was rejected for reasons that were never really clear.

Maybe this goes back to the emotional-v.-rational reactions that we've talked about?

V.

Kriston-
You are very honest and open and genuine, and I like that in a friend! I can't imagine who wouldn't enjoy your company.

Hey, great detail reading Dottie! and congrats momx2!

re: being emotionally sensistive...
...I have described 'discussions' I have with dh to my sister and she just laughs: 'You argue just like a man!!' she says. And really, all I can say is, well DH is such a girl! He's super verbal and to make sure I understand what he's saying he'll reiterate like 5000 times in various slightly different forms. Meanwhile I am like, ok, please, please PLEAAAASE get to the Point. (just in my head, of course!)
Actually I think we switch back and forth sometimes, but mostly he is very precise and detailed in describing an issue, and I am oriented towards the bottom line and let's move on! Without his details though, I would be lost.
I know I must come off as not caring because I try to rush to the 'end'.

Yes, I guess its my official announcement
Yes, Kriston - we'd either be best pals or hate one another - no middle ground there! Thanks Dottie, Val and Chris1234. And yes, I've always preferred the guys v. dolls. Much easier to deal with. Too bad none of us are near one another... PA, CA, VA, etc...
Life can get lonely which is why this Board is so wonderful. Although I am not a frequent poster, I am an avid reader... You are all fabulous

Congratulations, momx2! Oh and you would like Kriston. Trust me

I am right there with Kriston and others. I say what I think and I wish more people did the same thing. I am not too much into playing games. WYSIWYG. I thought it was part of the INTJ deal or may INTJs are more likely to do so.