I guess the school I worked in (in a totally different area) was just really high achieving? Our local school my son would be attending gets a great schools rating of 2. Yep, 2. This is yet another reason I am so against the public school.
I guess I felt like they would test everything they could to get a good idea how to help my son with his difficulties. I didn't even know you could do so few things and still get an IQ score? I got the impression that they would not be doing anything special academically for him.
The tester said that in a regular classroom my son would be labeled bad and so they want him in a less busy room so that he has a better chance of behaving. Not a word was said about enriching material. The tester did express outrage at our current IU OT situation. The OT refuses to do anything for sensory needs as she thinks that his behavior is all attention seeking and/or oppositional.
No one (other than me) seems to think it might be possible my son is acting out due to a cognitive mis-match. I can tell you he is great with adults and older kids, he even loves babies. But in a class of 20 3-5 year olds he fails completely. I know he has social issues and sensory issues and is hyper, etc. But isn't it possible that he would be happier if he wasn't stuck in such a boring environment? He just loves academics and when he gets upset at school they give him his workbooks to focus on to calm down.
I also thought the IU was all about least restrictive environment these days? We tried an IU preschool for 3 months, but I pulled my son after he kept coming home with bruises and bite marks. He was terrified of going there each day. They gave me a ton of hassle about how pulling him out wasn't the best decision for him. His behavior at his regular preschool actually deteriorated while he was going to the IU school and he was terrified to get on the van to go to "second school". They didn't cover any academics in that class (4's and 5's), just behavior and "problem solving" as they called it.
My son actually greatly enjoys learning and I hate to send him to school all day and then have to teach him at home in the evening so that he keeps learning about the things he is interested in. I also don't like it when they say he has potential. I don't like that term for any kid. I mean, they all have potential. Plus, I think my son is already a wonderful human being who is already meeting his potential. IDK, just a bad feeling I got about that word.
I'm going to call next week and every week after to see if she got the results in. I'm not waiting 2 months to find out how he did. I just hate the attitude everyone seems to have that he shouldn't be doing work many grade levels ahead and so they shouldn't need to change to accommodate him. I don't think you can make a 5 year old enjoy multiplication or learning how many zeros are behind a nonillian, they either are into it or they aren't. Right now, just for fun, my son is writing out a plus 2 minus 1 pattern on some scrap paper. He is so happy. And he just paused from that to count by 4's because he noticed a pattern to the multiples of 4 on his paper, so he's predicting where all of the multiples of 4 will fall as he continues the pattern. Am I supposed to make him stop doing that?
I just want my son to be happy. I'd rather have him go to play groups and social skills groups and maybe join some clubs than sit at a desk and learn his letters 4 years post mastery.
Having a kid wasn't supposed to be this difficult. I always figured I'd find my kid a great private school and they would go there and do perfectly well, but not exceptionally, while I went back to work. Now I find myself in a horrible district with an very unusual special needs kid who can't seem to control his behavior well enough to succeed. So frustrating
