Gifted Issues Discussion homepage Forums Parenting and Advocacy How did giftedness affect your family planning?

FWIW, I also feel that 4 years is a good spread if your 1st child was...a handful. Most 4yos are relatively self-managing in various ways. This can be hard to foresee or understand with a 2yo, or even a 3yo. If he/she is in your bed, though, I recommend getting him/her out before baby arrives. Two kids with labor-intensive "requires parent" lengthy bedtime routines (obviously babies do) or a need for a parental body in bed to sleep= crazymaking. What happens if one parent is gone? Seen it too many times. Super hard on families.

This, and I don't know a single parent of more than one child who wouldn't agree. IMO, every parent worries about this, and every parent then realizes it's not an issue. Love definitely expands. Personally, I felt like I couldn't possibly imagine what it would be like to have a boy, after only had a girl and of course, BEING one (I did have a slight preference for a girl as my first--no preference for the second, just couldn't imagine it). The idea was just slightly alienating. Now it's like I don't have any idea how I could have thought that.