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I agree having a professional's input goes a long way. We sought out a child psychologist after our DD was exhibiting some asynchronous issues. We both went to the first few meetings with the psychologist. Those few meetings helped my husband begin to understand our DD and where she was at. I had been worried that her current school wasn't meeting her needs. DH constantly disregarded my concerns. The psychologist said "a traditional school may not be what your daughter needs. Have you thought of project based or IB schools?" I nearly hugged her! Fast forward a few months. He is finally on board with open enrolling to a different district and, or moving! HUGE strides!
DH was in the talented and gifted program as a child, I was not. While much has changed in the 35 years since my husband was in first grade, his perceptions of school and how things work there have not changed. He still has lots of learning to do:-) All I can do is educate myself and when something is really interesting, I'll mention it to him. He's got to do this on his own timeline. The more he sees where she is at compared to other kids her age, the better.
I just wish he weren't so slow to adapt:-)

Grinity- what is 2SD & 3SD? I'm still relatively new:-)

SD is standard deviation. 2SD is about IQ 130, 3SD is about 145.

The video was very helpful! I forwarded it my DH (hope he finds time to watch it!)
The reactive hypoglycemia info. was very interesting- it's something I'm going to look into as our DS7 in very slender, has food and seasonal allergies (lactose intollerance) and we've been taking him to a psycologist to help with his intensity. Our DS9 is going to be tested with WISC-IV in a few weeks to help determine if his ADHD-like issues need further investigation, or if other accomodations might help.

His GAI was 99.8. PRI 99.9 and Verbal 96%, so right between 2SD and 3SD. We didn't do any further testing because we felt that was enough data to help get the school to entertain the idea of the grade skip (which we thought would make the most immediate difference.) We are in a district with no GATE or public schools with specialized programs. The closest private schools are 30 miles drives and way too expensive for us. It seems like we have struck a good academic balance so far this year (he might not be fully challenged but his teacher is providing enrichment material for him to explore when he finishes regular classwork early. He is not complaining about school- that's an improvement. 7 and in 3rd means that the bar for writing is set fairly high- he seems to be holding his own.

I would like my DH to explore the idea that personality traits also tie into his intensitities and learning style. Also the idea of asynchronous development - that we are better parents if we educate ourselves about our children's gifts and challenges and adapt our parenting. He is still more on the side of "one size fits all."

Thanks for the clarification! I learn something new here everyday!

Have you applied to Davidson Young Scholar's Program? Do it.

Even having 'parts' of a profile at the 3SD mark (PRI 99.9) means more unusual than the usual expectations for giftedness. Luckily, school doesn't much deal with the strengths of PRI, and so his Verbal 96% should make classrooms a friendlier place for him than for a kid with 96% PRI and 99.9% Verbal. Take a look at Iowa Acceleration Scale Manual for details on 'skip or no skip'

Get lots of afterschool stuff that deals with Engineering/Architectural/Visual Puzzle Solving. That may be where DH can really notice that 'unusualness.'

Hugs and best wishes,
Grinity

I am not a doctor and I do not play one on TV...! That said, I know of people with lactose intolerance who have found that taking Lactaid when consuming milk and other dairy products helps them effectively digest these foods. YMMV

Lactose intolerance is not an allergy. It just means the body does not produce the digestive enzyme (lactase) that breaks down lactose into simple sugars.

Lactaid is an enzyme supplement. There are also milk products for the lactose intolerant, which come with lactase as an added ingredient. Since the lactose is already broken down, they taste noticeably sweeter, but otherwise, it's just milk.

An added bonus: lactase-added milk keeps for about two months. Normal pasteurized milk keeps for about two weeks.

My dh made a 180 after meeting with the tester. She was amazing about explaining everything and how it affected our ds. She kept talking until dh "got it". Now, he knows and doesn't question. Has helped a lot for ds and me!