Yes, this is really helpful.
Mostly, this is reassuring to me that we've sort of settled into this same general approach (honesty, recalibration, and specifically identifying "learning opportunities" for life skills/self-evaluation, as well as identifying individual percentiles in separate domains). I'm not sure that the results are always what we hope for, but we are employing the same general strategies because those have seemed to be the
best of the options available.
It's a great conversation.
I found ZenScanner's remarks especially thought-provoking this morning, as did my DH.