Gifted Issues Discussion homepage Forums Parenting and Advocacy am I being too pushy?

thanks yeah, we are in the suburbs in a district that isn't one of the BEST in the area for high achieving kids (my husband went to Lower Merion but we couldn't afford a house there right now), but it's a pretty good district, which is one of the reasons we chose to move there. We also heard that they have great elementary schools, but now I just don't know.

thanks, but it's just not an option right now. I work full time and commute two hours each day and my husband is in graduate school full time. Plus, my daughter is very social and I don't know how she would take to homeschooling. Academically, it would be perfect for her.

thanks, yeah we are doing some stuff at home. She has a math program on her tablet that she loves to play. I think our 'mistake' was letting her stop playing her math games and doing her math work at home, when she started first grade. She WAS doing that, but then she started school and her math curriculum was just SO different, and of course we were busy after school and it just got pushed aside. We have started it back up though, once we realized that she was really regressing in that area. I also introduced some logic puzzles and analogies that I used to love to do when I was a kid. She is enjoying those a lot too.

If she was held back in K, can she just move back into the grade she is supposed to be in (second, right?)

I recently had my son enter Kimdergaryen he is a young Kindergartener but was very advanced. I worried also when I saw them going over letters with my child who could do all of that at 18 mo and at 2 was reading. I pushed the school to test him because I wanted to know if I was dealing with a high learner or a gifted child. In my case the school luckily decided to try him in 1rst grade. However his new teacher was very reluctant to accept him. My mother in laws both teachers told me we were wrong to accelerate him. When the district psychologist finally tested him he hit the ceilings on every subtest and came in at 160+ IQ. That made the psychologist really take notice of his unique learning style and get a team of people helping him as well as helping his teacher see we weren't just pushy parents. He was not yet doing double digit math (he had never been taught) and is reading at a high level not quite Harry Potter. So bottom line it is not normal for a child at that age to be doing what yours is doing. If your child had a learning disability you wouldn't stop until you got intervention. I feel these gifted kids are the same they need intervention and as parents understanding as to what you are dealing with. So push for the test they can't say no. However the first thing they said to me after testing my son was public school may not be the right fit long term. Looking creatively at options is important.