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I think I read on here somewhere sometime, that some wise person told their DC it was brain age, not birthdays! I always liked it

DeHe

i like it!

We're probably heading for this. DS noticed the sticker on a toy that said not for under 3's and was cross at me for giving it to his brother (2.5 years) I had to do some explaining. We also had a discussion recently when he turned 5. He asked if he was really 5, because he was still wearing size 4 clothes.

We just hit this too. Ds is going into K and wants the K leapster game, lol. He has had the 1st grade one for years. "But, it is kindergarten, and I am in kindergarten." It's going to be a long year.

bigbadwool, get your scissors and handmade stickers out it will make the year a lot easier ,lol

We had this conversation too - we did the whole "it's a recommendation, it's up to your responsible adult to make the final call"

My daughter insisted on this when she was young. She is a rule follower (or was). I finally just let it go and picked it up later. At 14, she sees this more clearly.

My Aspie son is a total rule follower. It wasn't that he didn't want to do the things for older kids, but it made him anxious thinking that he shouldn't. Some cartoons are marked Y7 and he wouldn't watch those when he was 5. It was actually nice since I didn't have to restrict him, he did it on his own.

Luckily, at almost 9 now, he will go to some acceptable PG13 movies. For a while he wouldn't even consider that! We can't miss Harry Potter!!!

It doesn't take much, we adults are so used to 'tuning out things' - one lady in a grocery store saying 'My My - well look who is reading!' in a snotty tone can be enough for these tender things.

In general I think 'flexibility training' is very important for these kids who seem born with an internal intuition that is hard to overcome.

Start with telling a few stories from your childhood, and your recent about how you first saw a thing one way, and then another.

Show a few 'Vase or Face' pictures, and the one with the fork in the coffee cup, to show how our brains are 'making stories' all the time, even when we don't have all the information.

Then praise praise praise anyone, including your child, who shows the slightest bit of flexibility in their thinking. Lather-Rinse-Repeat for about 10 years....it takes a while.

Love and More Love,
Grinity

That's a very good answer! I may not have to use it since my DDs love the attention and praise when people see them reading teen books.