I fogot to mention, if DD14 is in 8th grade now, then she can take the SATs and get an official score report, and then the scores will by wiped from the College Board system at the end of the year - so no college will ever see it. How cool is that?
DD14 might well enjoy THINK, CTY summer camp, CTY family weekends, and other Talent Search activities. SATs will do the trick for all of these if they are high enough in either Reading or Math parts.
Of course you will feel guilty to a degree, but try not to dwell - afterall, if someone had been there for you in this way, or the schools had done their duty all along, you wouldn't have been in the dark. I'm sure you did the best you could with the availible knowledge at the time. Really.
Grinity