Thanks so much for your support and confirming what I suspected. What would we do without these forums and the Internet? I dread to think of it. Friday is DS5s last day at the structured, gifted school. I'm meeting with the heads at the creative, gifted school tomorrow, so I'll bear these comments in mind, particularly HowlerKarma's.
I nearly dropped the cell when the principal identified the passive-aggressive behavior, but I'm now laughing as well. In way it's kind of funny that the principal in a gifted school doesn't know what to do with asynchronous kids, visual-spatial learners, or EG/PG kids. As mentioned, it's also painful emotionally with these type of schools and principals.
HowlerKarma, I really, want to thank you. You've hit the nail on the head and you DD sounds familiar to what we've had at times. DS5 needs to be shown or told something only once and he's got it. He doesn't need to be drilled to death or more than once.
DS5s teacher told me today that he's likely EG/PG, but she didn't want to tell me earlier because she wasn't sure how I was going to respond or react. She noted that DS5's verbal and social differences between inside and outside the classroom.
DS5 was showing signs of giftedness since birth, but much of it was hidden by him being twice exceptional from birth. In fact, DS5 spent 4 1/2 years in various therapies (pt, ot, speech, feeding, and vision) due to fine, gross, speech, and visual delays. He spent 2 years in integrated, pre-k programs in NYC and MA; of course he hated them and but we needed the therapies and monitoring. Both programs said he was bright, meaning average-to-above average. However, we saw other signs at home that indicated he was much brighter than what these schools were saying. Naturally, too, I had many doctors and therapists tell me that they thought DS5 had ADD, debated whether he was on the autism spectrum, didn't interact with peers due to speech, etc.
I had no idea DS5 was such a visual-spatial learner or had the math/engineering gene from my mother's side until he started at the structured, gifted school. Within a few months, it's now painfully obvious and with the EG/PG. DS5 wasn't doing any math before he started the structured, gifted school. We had some results from the vision therapy before he started the structured, gifted school but these involved reading and writing - both of which were self-taught - and not any math though. I think I didn't want to accept the EG/PG then.
Howlerkarma - thanks very much for the warning with school and the meltdowns. I can easily see what could happen with an older child's meltdowns. Eh gads, it's kind of scary to me how manipulative and avoidance these type of kids can get. I've had enough of them already!<grin>.
