I would be upset too. She is just trying to make you feel guilty about moving DS to grade 1 and to deny him "wonderful Montessori experience and just being a kid". You know the typical "you are a pushy parent" tune. Forget whatever she said.
I expect a similar guilt trip when DS Montessori teachers find out that neither DS3 nor DS5 are coming back. I think the fact that DS5 is not coming back is ok (they have been saying that the school wasn't set up for such kids since the 1st week), but the fact that we may hs him will get them going. That will go so nicely with the pushy parent scenario.
Good luck with the other school and DYS application. It will be a long wait, no doubt about that.
