on top of that she is small and cute so all the kids pick her up ,something she does not like...I would think that might be more of a problem if the kids were even bigger.
Martial Arts. Her size and cuteness is the pretext. The precipitating factors are her stance, her tone of voice, lots of nonverbal cues are saying 'it's ok, go ahead.'
Talk to the teacher. This is not acceptable!
She is likely to be small and cute for her whole life, and she needs to learn to project a large and solid presence.
I don't think that older kids are more likely to do it, although I get that the size difference would be even more striking. I think that older kids would be more likely to control themselves, and if she had one 'big kid' ally, it would stop.
Basically I would visit various classrooms and see what the teachers and students are like. It's easy to think your kid is immature if you are comparing her to adults. Some time in older classrooms might change your mind - or reinforce your opinion!
I agree that getting a fix on LOG is a great next step.
Love and More Love,
Grinity
