I think everyone has brought up some good points. I would just add that it might be helpful to go in more with your new-to-the-school hat on rather than your advocating-for-special-educational-needs hat on, just for this first meeting. Or, at least start that way and adjust as needed based on what they say. It's always a good idea to put yourself in their shoes to help convey that you're wanting to work with them to educate your son by saying something like, "I know the first days of school are crazy for everyone and that it takes a bit to settle in to the new school year, but . . . ." Also, if you take the stance that you need their help figuring out how things are going to go this year, it makes them feel that you respect them as educators. Of course, if they say things you don't like then you absolutely have to get more in their face about things, but it's always good to start off with a light touch in a new relationship, which is what you're building with the school. Anyway, just my thoughts. YMMV!
