My DD12 was also very "bossy". I did not know anything about gifted stuff at the time when she was pre-school age. I remember feeling really embarrasses by her trying to get the children to role play the latest books that she was into.... She had no idea that they were not into to those books. She also had really elaborate rules for games she would make up. I think I did all the wrong things according to that article and had no idea. I think its good that you have some ideas from which to work. There was a girl near my DD's age who was really visually artistic. She would follow all my DD's rules etc. as long as she could add color and make things beautiful. She had not read the books but it seemed to work. This "bossy" behaviour did serve her well as she was the vice-president of her school in 5th grade (only 6th graders were allowed to be President).
