But I can see that this little girl waits to be told what to do when they are playing and dd helps her along in groups. Are we just incompatible?
I have no advice, just sympathy. Assuring just isn't going to happen, so don't try and stand on your head over it. I don't think that there is a right answer here, just try and be who you are, mentally thank the other mom for showing you were you are still insecure about how others might be judging you, and keep on as usual. Eventually the mom will calm down or stop the relationship.
I will say that it's possible that the daughter waits because her mom totally helicopters her, but it is also possible that the daughter waits and the mom helicopters for the same reason - they both have cautious temperments. Or maybe the mom got into a habit of helicoptering because earlier in the girls life she was prone to falling apart and seemed to need her mom's micromanagement. If you stick around and keep an open mind - you'll find out!
Smiles,
Grinity
