I don't want my kid to be or appear to be smarter. Not at all. I also don't want her to be friendlier or happier or more polite. She's plenty happy, friendly, and polite. She's more than plenty smart. Perhaps if she were less happy, friendly, polite, and smart, I might want to change her.
I think we must be at cross purposes. You don't think improving is part of growing up? At all? Or is it that you don't think you have any role in helping her improve as she grows up? I'm not talking about helping my DS to go up the percentiles as he gets older, not about him getting smarter relative to his peer group - just smarter (etc.) in the sense that he's 6 now and I hope when he's 7, or at least when he's 16, he will be smarter than he is now, otherwise he's had no growth in that area.
