Oh Neato!
I was thinking to post on my 'yucky school meeting' thread that the meeting I dread the most is when they promise the sun and moon and then eventually don't deliver.
You know, we've had that experience with every 'enrichment' program that was put into place. That must be why I have a soft spot in my heart for full grade skips even though they have obvious drawbacks! Golly, can a different teacher do the program for the 3 weeks? Will they let a parent do it?
My son was another one who found the 'testing' to be an enrichment activity. I would ask them to start on it, even knowing the 'rule' and your daughter's feelings - she may change her mind, and I'm sure you won't have to take the skip if she holds her position. As long as she is going to enjoy the testing and use it as an enrichment.
Remember to keep talking to everyone about the emotional stress this is putting her in.
Neato, I don't remember your daughter's situation, but I remember being convinced that she's on track with her judgment against a skip. I'm going to give some general advice that comes to my mind, for the lurker parent who is reading this because their hard fought enrichment just fell apart. ((Generalization Alert!))
I know that the IASM says that the child has to be willing. I think that's true for MG kids, and maybe the lower side of HG kids - but around Ruf Level III I think a parent must be prepared to have an independent perspective and apply a bit of pressure if needed. In the end, it's the parents who have the world experience.
We put it in terms or learning how to learn. DS had the famous choice to afterschool with me, 30 minutes 5 days a week, subjects of my choice at least half the time, or take the skip. Another friend convinced her son by pointing out all the homework he would never have to do. In my mind it's willingness after parental arm twisting. Again it so much depend on the kid! But the more perfectionism, or wild in-class behavior, or social isolation, the more I'd be willing to arm-twist.
